Update, death, friends, and comfort

Past:
To catch you all up work has been hell, the supervisors and the boss has been conferenced w/ on the hell it has become and hopefully things will be better if not before then hopefully next year (in school terms).

B accused R of stealing $60, he was insulted that she would think he would do that, I was insulted that she would think I would bring a thief to her house, but could understand why she thought it b/c he went into her house to get some things for me, I had told her he was coming but something came up and she wasn't there when he arrived and he waited for 30 minutes or so and no one came and it would be the only opportunity he had to get them. He knocked on the door again and the door came open on it's own so he just went in and got my things and left...I understand both sides and at this point I just stay out of it. Whatever, it's their argument.

I am still single w/ no prospects in site. *sigh* Who knew that I would be single at 25 and not really care. I figured I would be married and considering children at this point....HA....there goes that life plan out the window, but you know what...that's ok. I am happy being single. I don't have to worry about anyone but myself and frankly, I haven't seen anyone worth running after. At this point I just want to find a church near where I live and then I am hoping everything else will just fall into place. So if anyone knows of a church near Lexington or East Athens area that uses the KJV Holy Bible and knows how to serve a proper communion (w/o salted crackers) please let me know.

So that's what's been happening.

Present:

This week has been a rough one. I was home last weekend and my Granny went into the hospital. Sunday before I left she was doing considerably better but I knew that I should have stayed. I had a gut feeling that I didn't need to go but I went against it. Monday afternoon my dad calls and tells me that Granny died. Tuesday I was back home and helping out every way I could. I was VERY close to my grandmother. She was truly an inspiration to me. She is the person that first taught me to sign my alphabet. You could say that she's probably the reason that I chose the profession that I have. Last summer she taught me to quilt and the thought of that still brings a smile to my heart and a tear to my eye. She was an inspirational woman even after she had her stoke 20 years ago that left her w/o the ability to speak. Her passing left a HUGE hole in a lot of ppl's hearts that'll never be filled. However, there is no doubt in any of our minds where Granny is today. I figure that by now she has talked the ears off of everyone that would listen as well as played them a tune or two on a harmonica.

A "wise" friend told me when he found out that Granny died that "now you will find out who your friends are and how many REAL friends you have." He knew my grandmother and knows how much she means to me. He also knows loss and speaks from experience and I'll have to say that he wasn't wholly wrong. B told me on Tuesday night that she would come and help out at the house. I called her on Wednesday morning and she was still laying in the bed. I can totally understand that, especially w/ everything that she has to deal w/, so it didn't bother me. She called me back later to see how things were going and if we were going to be able to go to town like we had wanted and I told her no b/c I have a lot to do around the house getting things cleaned and ready for family and the ppl to bring in food and what not. She understood that and asked again if I wanted her to come and help. I told her that she didn't have to if she didn't want to (I honestly wanted her to come but wouldn't ask b/c I learned a long time ago that if you ask in a situation like that ppl will come if they want to or not but the help that is there is really more of a hindrance than a blessing), she said she would come if I wanted her to and I told her that I didn't want her to do anything that she didn't want to do. Shortly after she told me, well I am going to come help for a little bit, I can't stay long but I'll be there shortly. Shortly never came. I am sure that there is a reason that she didn't make it and I still love her all the same...but I will have to confess that I am disappointed. Just wish she'd have at least called back to say she wasn't going to be able to make it.

Work could obviously give a shit less b/c my brothers' places of work all sent flowers or something to the funeral, same for several of my cousins but my work did nothing....oh wait...they found me a sub, but that's their job. Oh well, guess I know where I stand there as well. DJ called and gave her condolence and said that many of the kids had asked about me from the various clubs that I help w/ but that's about it.

R came to the funeral home and to the funeral. Both my grandparents always thought a lot of him and Granny always said she was going to steal him from me. Papa was really glad to see him there. W has called or inquired about me several times since he found out. He called Tuesday and talked to me, his mom told me Wednesday night that she had talked to him and he asked about me and wanted to know how I was doing, she told him I was taking it hard and she said that he told her that he would call not to worry about it, then the funeral was Thursday and he called me tonight just to chat (aka: check up on me though he'd never admit it). He's also kept in touch via text as well. He and R have really kept me afloat through this.

Admittedly, when I am heartbroken or upset, I don't ask for help. I know this. I rely on God to provide me w/ the help I need. If I do ask for help it's b/c I have no where else to turn. In a situation like this I don't like to ask for help b/c it puts a great deal of pressure on the person to accept b/c they know that you are in emotional pain and it's hard to say no. That's why I generally won't ask. People will help if and when they want to with me. I have gone through a great deal of my life like that w/ emotional situations. God has always provided the right person at the right time. I guess that B just wasn't the right person for the job on this one. Just as he has for the last 12 years, R stepped up and accepted the challenge (and believe me, emotional me is a challenge and you never know just what you'll get you just have to be ready to deal with whatever I throw you...sometime literally). And a true brother, W, who says that his main goal in life is to make me miserable every chance he gets, has really been there to offer words of comfort and perspective that only he could give. God has truly blessed me and I thank him daily for that.

"I will not leave you comfortless: I will come to you." John 14:18

You just never know in what form he will show up.